Relationship of Forgiveness, Accountability, Manipulation
Spiritual Sunday.
On Sunday, I tried to read or watch something spiritual to align myself to my true purpose, or just to face myself. There are some books which are my favorite, but today I listened to one of them - Gary Zukav’s The Seat of the Soul while I went for a 10.5K walk.
I’ve read and listened to this book many times, but it’s interesting how different parts speaks to me differently at different timing. Today, the part that resonated with me the most is this part,
“Forgiveness means that you do not hold others responsible for your experiences. If you do not hold yourself accountable for what you experience, you will hold someone else accountable, and if you are not satisfied with what you experience, you will seek to change it by manipulating that person. Complaining, for example, is exactly that dynamic of wanting someone to be responsible for what you experience, and to fix things for you.”
I do this often. When I’m not happy about certain things, when I’m upset, what I’m doing is most likely blaming someone. Not owning my responsibility. “You will seek to change it by manipulatin that person.” This part is so true and so powerful. i thought it’s related to what The Book, Boundaries (from yesterday’s post) are talking about. We need to draw our boundaries, but at the same time, we need to respect others’ boundaries.
It is not easy to face it and admit it, but I believe once I have self-awareness, that’s a huge step forward. It will be eventually better although it could take a while. I feel this is a very important concept for me to learn in order to get to the next level.
This book helped me to align myself during the 1 hour and 40 minute walk.
